Wall of shame

Everytime I go to draw money on campus I see it: the Wall of Shame. It’s covered with photos, and no, not photos of people who’ve messed up, who should be ashamed. In fact, the pictures are of smiling people proud of achievement. The shame belongs to those who picked and printed the photos. They’re on the wall of my college’s GAA (Gaelic Athletic Association) club office (at least I think it’s their office).

There are 21 photos on the wall. One of them is a shot of a sport field with people only in the distance:

That leaves 20 photos. Of these, three are of women. Here they are:

In two of the three photos the women’s faces are obscure or turned away from the camera. In the third, a large group of women are shown, a sea of faces, indistinct. Some of the photos of men are similar. However, the majority are loving, personal, joyous, celebratory.

“The lads” are depicted as a team, mates, the images a celebration of the brotherhood in sport:

What breaks my heart as well, though, is how men are also shown as students, apparently studying sport. Only men (you can make out one woman in the background):

I don’t know much about DkIT’s GAA club. I don’t know what they say about including women, encouraging women to participate. What I do know is that this wall speaks more clearly than a hundred thousand words. This club is by men, for men, worshipping men. A few crappy images of women are thrown in awkwardly, no heart in them. They may as well have written “by the way we are not sexist srsly look women” on an arrow-shaped poster beside these pictures, it would at least have been more honest.

Should the excuse be that so few women participate that those are unfortunately the best pictures that could be found, the club should know that as long as there are almost no images of women playing GAA sports, there will be almost no women playing GAA sports. Fake it ’til you make it. If there’s a single game each year then make sure you get loads of good photos and SHOW THEM OFF. Make sure for every photo of men there’s a photo of women. Make the photos good, as vibrant as those you have up of male players. Men are intimidating, especially in packs. We need to see other women doing stuff to show us we can, too.

Someone asked on Twitter a while ago what can be done to encourage more women to participate in GAA. Well, on the wall outside DkIT’s GAA club you can see what you can do to make sure they don’t.

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Bondage gear, for the office

Picture dress code for the more formal workplace, or a formal event even in an office where the dress code is quite relaxed. You’d imagine people looking more or less like this lot:

Professional-dress-code

Okay, now imagine all of them running a race.I’ll wait while you finish laughing. Even the girl wearing trousers is going to have a problem because she’s in heels.

Women are expected to wear clothes at events focused on their professional abilities which disable them, which limits their capabilities. Can it be that on some subconscious level, this contributes to the woeful state of women in work, especially management positions? Just a thought.

 

 

Case in point

This is a classic example of the more subtle gender discrimination that is so prevalent, and so devoid of intent to harm, that we mostly just don’t see it. The fact that we’re so used to it we hardly notice, doesn’t lessen the harm it does, the message this view of women drills in over and over again. It’s actually heartbreaking to use this example as it’s from an article highlighting a lovely song with a touching accompanying video. Even so, I cringed when I read this:

The heartbreaking yet understated video has Ian Axel and Chad Vaccarino on the piano as a svelte Aguilera, clad in a little black dress, lends her soulful vocals.

Did you miss it? Let me rewrite and try to show you what’s happening here:

The heartbreaking yet understated video has a trim Ian Axel in figure-fitting casuals and dreamy Chad Vaccarino in a fetching suit on the piano as Aguilera lends her soulful vocals.

I just can’t get this to not bother me anymore. It is wrong, and it has to stop.

Subtle Sexism

I’ve recently come into contact on a regular basis with a person who has brought home the impact of subtle sexism to me. The definition of subtle sexism is:

1. Discrimination based on gender.
2. Attitudes, conditions, or behaviors that promote stereotyping of social roles based on gender.

This kind of behaviour matters a lot. Without the person promoting it meaning to do so, they damage those around them (women are on the receiving end in the vast, vast majority of incidents, but it is totally possible for men to be the victims). Women feel isolated, targeted, and intimidated. Subtle sexists create a hostile environment for women.

The tragedy lies not only in the damage to women, but that the men in the situation are also damaged. Their views of women are warped. In the case I’m aware of, the boys involved are told again and again in little “jokes” and endless anecdotes that women are useless chatterboxes who always turn out to be stupid, and whose views always turn out to be wrong, especially when these airheads insist they are right and the superior male goes along with it just to show the ridiculous woman up for the idiot she is. They are trained to disregard or undervalue the opinions of those who don’t have a penis.

Lastly, the perpetrators of this kind of misogyny damage themselves in a tragic naked-emperor-like way. By contaminating the world with their belief that all women are useless bimbos, they reveal that the only women they ever get a chance to know are useless bimbos. The intelligent, funny, practical, strong, pleasant majority of the female population are smart enough not to hang out with arseholes.

WTF, Independent.ie?

I am attempting to widen my news reading, as it’s probably as closed-minded to only read the Guardian as it would be to only watch Fox News. So I visited Independent.ie for a bit of a different view on what’s going on in the world. Good website, except they have in their menu across the top the following categories: News, Sport, Business, Woman, Entertainment, Lifestyle, Videos, Photos. My first question on seeing that was, why should there be a separate category for women?

I clicked on it and understood why: because clearly, the Independent is still extricating itself from the view that women are vacuous creatures who shouldn’t bother their cute little heads with such weighty issues as world news. No, ladies, we at the Independent realise that what interests you is Celeb News, Photos, Videos, Fashion, Beauty, Love & Sex, Diet & Fitness, Horoscopes, and Competitions.

Grow up, Luddites. Your sexism is showing.

Does it matter?